I just found out today, that September is Suicide Awareness Month… it seems silly doesn’t it? That we have to bring “awareness” to things that happen all the time: Breast Cancer, Childhood Cancer, Arthritis, Drug Prevention, and the list goes on. But the more I think on it, that we shouldn’t have to, but at the same time we do… Because unless you, or someone close to you , is suffering.. would you know or care about it?

Probably not.

I’m sort of at a loss for words on this article, without going on a rant…. Here goes nothing.

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Depression is awful. It’s so, so deceiving. There are no set rules for it. Obviously. Lets take a look at some of the celebrities that have passed away from suicide; would you ever have though Robin Williams would be one to take his own life? Or what about Chester Bennington? Anthony Bourdain.. Chris Cornell? And what about all those kids in school who commit suicide, later you find out it’s from bullying…

Depression can be smiles and laughter, excessively clean houses. Or, depression can be crying, self harm, unkept appearance. How many of the people mentioned above, or that you know, did you think “I never would have though they would do something like this?” I’ve had friends commit suicide. I’ve thought similar things; I’ve had people I love die from suicide and others try.

Then the “survivors remorse” kicks in.

  • What could I have done for that person?
  • Maybe if I was a better friend, they’d still be here today.
  • Today so and so would be 29, is it fair to celebrate my birthday still?
  • Why?

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According to the latest stats, 1 in 4 adults are affected by mental illness and 8.6 million have suicidal thoughts.

Suicide is the tenth leading cause of death in the U.S.

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I, personally, suffer from anxiety and depression. Sometimes I can’t pinpoint why I’m feeling the way I am, it can be tough navigating through it.

I have days when it’s hard to get out of bed or I don’t eat. Days when all I want to do is lock myself in the bathroom and cry. Some days I regret disposing of my pain medication. When I have down days, I put on some music and try to get out of the funk I’m in. Does it always work? No, but tomorrow’s another day.

I have good days, too. Days when I’m so full of energy I want to take the kids on a nature walk. Days I cook three meals and make sweets. Days when I am able to enjoy the movie we picked out. Day with the kids dancing in the kitchen to the Cha Cha Slide or Mickey Mouse’s Hot Dog Dance.

It helps when you have someone who is supportive; I talk to a therapist twice a month, I tell her about the bad days and the good. Believe it or not, voicing your feelings helps so much. Find someone to listen to you, write in a journal, talk out loud.

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Do you want to be a support person for someone you know suffering from mental illness? Great! The biggest and best thing you can do is Listen and be non-judgmental; give information, don’t assume you know what’s going on, you most likely aren’t a doctor and it is NOT your job to fix someone; and please, don’t ask why… sometimes we don’t know.

Not sure, your equipped to be a support person but still want to help? Great! You can provide vital information to help the person in need get help they deserve.

In need of resources for you or someone you know? Find them at the bottom of this article.

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Remember, suicide victims and anyone who suffers from a mental illness, they are not weak or cowards or selfish… They are fathers, mothers, sons and daughters, husbands, wives, brothers and sisters, grandchildren, and friends who are/were in pain, that are (will be) missed and loved.

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It’s okay to ask for help.

Remember you are not alone.

Your story isn’t over yet.

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Resources:

Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Crisis Text Line: Text ITSOK to 741741

National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-866-656-HOPE (4673)

For Veterans Call 1-800-273-8255 then press 1 or text 838255

www.twloha.com

HFTD.org

suicidepreventionlifeline.org

afsp.org

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Suicide Prevention Week this year is September 10-16

Suicide Prevention Day this year is September 10

#stopsuicide #itsoknottobeok #stopthestigma #TomorrowNeedsYou #WSPD18

 

-C