Right now in Bali, Indonesia there’s a Bali Spirit Festival that ends on the 31st; it’s a yoga and music festival. Personally I enjoy yoga, as many yoga studios there are in my town I can’t believe we don’t have a festival like this and we usually have a festival for everything. (We have a full weekend Elvis Festival, come on.) I love waking up before everyone in my house and watch “Yoga with Adriene” on YouTube.  I wake up with a lot of back pain and this just help get my day going. If you want to try yoga, I recommend trying her videos, she has some great beginner yoga videos on her channel.

Yoga isn’t for everyone though, so we suggested reading any nutritional, spiritual, or self help book. I originally wanted to read a nutritional book but couldn’t find one that caught my attention. (If anyone has any to recommend let me know!) So this week I listened to the audio version of “Hands Free Mama: A Guide to Putting Down the Phone, Burning the To-Do List, and Letting Go of Perfection to Grasp What Really Matters” by Rachel Macy Stafford. I know, that’s a mouthful of  a title.

Honestly, I don’t enjoy self help books because they all say the same thing, they really do. They just have different titles and authors on the cover. This one started like the rest. (Insert groan here.) I didn’t want to go looking for a new book so I kept with it. To be honest, I was negative at first, I wasn’t wanting to give this book a try. When I see post online telling me to enjoy my kids now because they grow up, I get annoyed because I feel like people are telling me I’m not allowed to get frustrated about the third milk spill of the day or the clogged sink of toilet paper that’s currently flooding the bathroom. Or that when I just need a break, I finally just hand over the tablets that the kids have been asking for most of the day. That’s what I thought about this book.

Last year for Mother’s Day my daughter’s class wrote these cute little books about their moms. She added in that I do a lot of dishes. Which, for some reason I do. I cleaned a lot. I’m a stay at home mom, what else am I going to do?

Anything else, actually.

Then I created a cleaning schedule, each day of the week, except Sunday’s, I only target one or two rooms in the house.

  • On Monday’s I clean the kitchen. I’m not talking about only cleaning the counters and sweeping the floor, I clean out the fridge, organize the pantry, wipe down the cabinets, and scrub the stove.
  • Tuesday is the living room and basement.
  • Wednesday I clean both bathrooms and the hallway.
  • Thursday I tackle mine and Rykar’s bedroom. If it’s really bad I will clean Azalea’s room but now that she’s 6 we feel she’s old enough to clean her own room.
  • Friday I do laundry
  • Saturday I clean up the laundry room.

I do have daily work like dishes, clean the kitchen counter, pick up small toys and clothes that are on the floor. Do it only if it needs to be done. When you look at it, I know it doesn’t sound like a lot but some days it can be a struggle.

As I was listening to this book I was cleaning, when I finished my to-do list it was still early in the day and I was going to look for more cleaning. Maybe start the cleaning for the next day. I had to stop myself. The author mentions a few times how we tell our kids we’re busy, a lot. I have been noticing lately that I do this. So I stopped myself and went to go play with my daughter. To be honest, sometimes I have to force myself to play with my kids because I don’t enjoy playing with baby dolls, but we all know it’s so beneficial for them.

I saw this book as a reminder for the new changes I was wanting in my family. The plans I made but didn’t go through with. Like I said at first, I was a hater, but once I realized what I was doing I changed my views about the book. I eventually started to enjoy the book and understood what she was saying. It’s going to sound cheesy, but there is no spending too much time with your kids or your family.

Here’s what I think now that I’m done with the book, it’s still okay for me to want alone time. It’s still okay for me to freak out over my flooded bathroom. It’s still okay for me to clean my house. But I do know that I want to interact more with my kids, do more things as a family, I would love for us to start a family tradition. Maybe more than one.

Tell us about the book you read today or any of these genre’s that you have read before and enjoyed.

~D